Say NO to Negative Vibes

"You are too blessed to be stressed, my friend"

It’s that time in your life right now that you need to say it aloud  to your own self, 'NO to NEGATIVE VIBES.'

Negative vibes are those perception which are either emitted by the other person and which affects you or it is which we ourselves feel internally. Vibes are  classified into two distinct nature, Good and Bad Vibes. Remember positivity within yourself gives a boost to good vibes and negativity gets your life revolving only around bad vibes.
Negative vibes are felt by humans due to internal or external reasons and within which a person‘s life revolves.
"But who is the master of your life? Is it the people around you or you yourself?" 
"Of-course you are the master of your life and therefore you are the one to decide which vibe has to attract and enter into your life.

Life is too short to stress, to overthink and to be upset over issues.Remember you are the creature of God and God will not burden you with issues to a level which you can’t handle.Therefore have a positive attitude,learn to say No to negative vibes because good things in life come with positive attitude.

Here are some quick tips to learn in order to stick around the phrase, 'Say NO to NEGATIVE VIBES

1. Love and Appreciate Yourself:  Loving yourself and appreciating every little thing about yourself matters in the long run. Your life starts from you and if you give yourself the positive emotions of love, self-respect and confidence you are going to lead a positive life and thereby you will be away from negativity. 
2. Do not give up during tough times: Life is like a roller-coaster ride and ups and downs are part of life. Remember tough times don’t last, tough people do.Don’t let the negative emotions during these tough time drain you and instead gather the courage to face the situation and come out positively out of the tough phase.
3. Spare few minutes daily to communicate with god: Spending time in prayers and communication with God generates a sense of positivity  in you because you pray to God with faith and therefore you are discarding all negativity around you for the moment and ultimately forever
4. Do not compare yourself with others: Every human and every life is different in this world. You need to believe in your own-self always and never ever compare yourself to others because every life has a different story. Believe in yourself and improve yourself for better and in a positive manner rather than comparing yourself to others and bringing negativity within you.
5. Practice gratitude every day: When you are feeling negative think of something you are grateful for and spare time for activities/things which makes you happy. You have to make time for the activities which you love and indulge yourself with your hobbies. Giving yourself time generates a positive bond with your mind and soul and you ultimately generate positivity within you and keep yourself away from negative vibes.

"Respond Less to Negativity and Life becomes more Peaceful"

Self Care

"CARING FOR YOUR OWN-SELF, ISN'T SELFISH" 

Everyone in life is going through something or the other and controlling life situations is not in your hands, but learning to tackle those situations by making yourself strong enough for it is definitely in your hands and this is called Self-Care. Before everything else in your life learn to take care of yourself because everything in your life starts from YOU.

Self care includes taking care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and sensory self-care.Pampering yourself at spas is not the beginning and end of your self-care. You need to take care of yourself physically as well as mentally. A good mental health is very essential to lead a peaceful life.Stress is the most dangerous thing to

your mental well-being, avoid it as much as you can because the stress can tear you and break you completely.

Life is like a journey, a road full of ups and downs so drive cautiously and avoid accidents. Take every issue in your life as these ups and downs and lead your life cautiously to avoid the accident of affecting yourself mentally. Ignore the paths of overthinking, crying and stressing over issues because controlling life situations is not in your control.

Self-care is the most precious thing that you can gift yourself. Don’t blame yourself every time after a downfall in your life, you need to be your own counselor in the worst phase of life. Keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a good reason and be wise enough to see goodness in the bad phase. Every time you catch yourself criticizing yourself, think of something you love about yourself and appreciate it.

Doing good deeds is also a way to care for yourself, do good for others and it will come back to you in unexpected ways.

Some quick Self-Care activities for you:

• Pray daily 
• Give yourself some 'Me' time 
• Appreciate yourself and take credits for how far you have come in your life
• Sleep well 
• Surround yourself with positive environment 
• Take yourself out in open space 
• Make time to do what makes your soul happy 
• Prioritise your hobbies
• Have work-life balance 

"Life is too short to spend it at war with yourself 

so start caring for yourself before time"

Self-Improvement

 "You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think"

 "Ever wondered why are these things only in your thoughts and not a fact in your life?" 

It is only because you haven’t started believing in yourself yet. Remember, "The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be" and you will become the best version of yourself only after you start believing yourself. Boost your self-confidence, because self-confidence is like a ladder to reach success by walking up and improving yourself at every step.

Let us understand the concept of 'Self-Improvement'. Self-Improvement means a mixture which is formed with a base of 'self' added with self-confidence, self-esteem and self-belief.

Self- improvement should be like a constant believe that you are worth the efforts, time and energy that you make in your life to achieve your goals, success and ultimate satisfaction.

Self-Improvement plays a vital role in shaping your personality, achieving your desired goals and helps you lead a happy and satisfactory life. Remember self-Improvement is important irrespective of your age.

So how do you start to improve yourself ?

It  is not a big task to undertake in your life, so believe in yourself and get started with these steps:

1. Give quality time to yourself to know and understand yourself better
2. Deeply understand your thoughts and emotions, sources of your stress and anger. Work on the sources to reduce it, if not eliminate it from your life because a normal human life is bound to have ups and downs and minor and major setbacks, take it easy.
3. Make self development plans an integral part of your life and it will lead you to improve yourself.
4. Don’t skip the biggest step of believing in yourself, because remember till the time you won’t start believing in yourself you will never decide on to improve yourself
5. Take life as it comes, but also don’t forget to learn and discover new things about your personality during those times in your life. During these phases of your life you will discover new attributes about yourself, add the positive attributes in your personality and discard the negative ones, and thats how you improve yourself
6. Take care of your mental health because it is a vital part of your personality. Avoid stressing yourself for every issue in your life.Remind yourself every time whenever you are sad or angry that you deserve a happy life.Letting go minor issues in life should be included in your self development plans because remember a good mental health is essential for a successful life
7. Don’t judge yourself after you commit a mistake, you are a human and you are tend to make mistakes, however, learn from those mistakes. Remember not only 'failure' but 'error' is also your best teacher.

   Continuous Improvement is better than Delayed Perfection         

-Mark Twain

Anger Management

"For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness"

 "Don’t you want to lead a happy life? Do you want to frustrate yourself every day by hampering your mental peace?"

These simple questions anonymously answer that you deserve a happy life and you need to discard emotions which hamper your peace.  

Anger is the most dangerous enemy to your happiness and learning to give-up on your anger for your happiness is the most important thing you should be doing for your own-self. Anger is a human emotion caused due to unforeseen circumstances, unjust acts or as a consequence of saddening situations in life.

Learn to Control your "ANGER" because it is just one letter away from "D"ANGER

Anger can be dangerous to your life and has the following effects:

 

• Anger leads to deteriorating physical health which includes high BP, headache and anxiety
• Anger hampers your mental well-being which includes frequent irritations, breakdowns and  not getting sound sleep
• Anger results in spoiling your relationships with families and other people because of  your rudeness and temperament.
• Anger also has a bad effect on your career as you tend to spoil your relationship with office colleagues and seniors because of your arrogant behavior.

Anger management plays a vital role in shaping your personality. Managing your anger does not mean that you need to control it all the time, understand controlling and managing are two different aspects. Anger as an emotion is going to come out regardless of your control over it, therefore you need to learn to manage your anger rather than controlling it.

Effective Tips to Manage your Anger:

1.  The foremost thing you need to do is to figure out your nature with regards temper issues. You need to understand as to what are the things that add up to your temper.
2. Anger within you arises due to different sources like it may be caused because of frustration, unforeseen circumstances, work pressure, emotional breakdown or when life does not goes as per your will. Once you have figured out the source of your anger, you need to sit and tell yourself one thing "Anger doesn't solve anything, it builds nothing but it can destroys everything.
3. After knowing the source of your anger, next immediate thing that you need to do is to know what triggers you to react in such a manner. Ask yourself, "have you reach a level of frustration that you can't control it anymore? Is it an emotional breakdown? Is it your work pressure which makes you behave in this manner?" After getting your answers, relax and understand that anger is an emotion just like every other emotion and therefore don't let it overpower you, instead choose to not get triggered by it and take the issue in a humorous manner or by remaining silent  for that particular moment. Choosing to ignore it, meditating and spending time with positive people around has also proven to be effective tips to overcome the trigger of your anger.
4.  Every management in your life is for you and you are the first person to handle it, be it 'time management' or 'anger management' you need to work on yourself first and other management follows thereon. Learn to stay calm in the stormy situation. "You think that is impossible?" Nothing is impossible if you are willing to do it and you need to change and keep on trying to calm yourself till you finally succeed.
5. Even after multiple attempts to have control over yourself, over your emotions and anger you still fail in managing it and despite many steps to control and manage your anger if you fail, its advisable that  you need to enroll for anger management therapy at the earliest because remember "ANGER" is only a letter away from "D"ANGER.

Remember: IF ANOTHER CAN EASILY ANGER YOU, IT IS BECAUSE YOU ARE OFF BALANCE WITH YOURSELF AND THEREFORE IMPROVE YOURSELF TO MANAGE YOUR ANGER.

Stress Management

Having stress in your life is like a disease of precarious consequence which needs a timely treatment, as it can even cost you your life. Stress as a disease is one of the dangerous disease that your body can handle. Therefore figuring out the minor and major symptoms of stress, finding out the reason/source of the stress, handling the stress effectively and coping up with stress are all very important doses for curing the disease of 'stress'. 

The meaning of stress in the most simplified manner includes 'Stress as a state of mental/emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse negative circumstances'. Tension, overthinking, negative thoughts and fears are all major sources of stress.

 Stress also plays a role of a foundation for many other diseases in your body. It can result in many health problems including mental health i.e depression, anxiety and personality disorder.  It can also cause disease like heart disease, high blood pressure and stroke.
Now that you have read and understood about the deadly consequences of stress, don't you think you should be more cautious for your health, mental well-being  and your life?
Stress is a disease, but it can be cured if managed effectively. Therefore to lead a healthy and long life you need to learn to manage stress which is termed as Stress Management.

Stress Management is all about having control over yourself which includes management over your thoughts, emotions, environment and also your daily habits of living.

Here are 5 simple ways to Manage and Prevent Stress: 

• Be Optimistic:

Overthinking is the first step which leads to cause stress on a human mind. When do you tend to overthink? You tend to overthink when you are having negative thoughts about a particular thing/situation. So, learn to be optimistic i.e to be positive even in your worst circumstances because it's not stress that kills us, it our reaction to it'. Remember everything happens for a good reason. May be the worst situation god has put you in is going to make you stronger or may be this worst situation which you are into currently was arisen by god to teach you a life lesson. Holding on to positivity during a tough time is a hard thing to do but do you think its more tough than the consequences which you may have to suffer if stress starts entering your body as a disease? Think about it and cultivate yourself from this very moment to stay positive so that you can manage and prevent stress.

• Make time for yourself: 

In the fast growing and busy world making time for your own self is extremely important or else you keep losing your peace in the worldly affairs. When your mind is constantly occupied with various things everyday, after a certain point these thoughts start causing you stress and you tend to hamper your mental well-being. Therefore, have a habit to make time for yourself everyday. Your mind and body needs relaxation after a level of work which it does for you. Understand, a leisure time is like a fuel to your mind and body and therefore spending sometime for yourself is not a waste of time and  it will work as a preventive measure for stress and ultimately help you to maintain your health positively. Spending time with yourself can include doing anything which relaxes you like reading a book, listening to music, playing sports or simply sitting in the corner of the room and having a good conversation with god. These activities may seem like a small act but in reality these tiny steps which you take for your own self helps you prevent and manage your stress to a great level.

Have a Balanced Schedule:

It is really important for a person to have a balanced schedule in his life. You need to understand the importance of having a balanced schedule in your life as all activities which you do with your mind and heart in totality has a effect on your life. Balance schedule means having a schedule wherein you include a leisure time for yourself, some social time with people along with your personal and professional time.You need to manage your day in a manner which will not disproportionate your personal-professional time and leisure-social time. Having a balanced schedules in life will prevent your mind to get stuck on one thing and as a result will also prevent causing stress to you. Having a balanced schedule also has a vital role in stress management as your mind gets distracted from certain things when you decide to spend some quality time with yourself  or have some social time.

Practice Meditation and Yoga:

Activities of practicing yoga, meditation and playing of sports have proved to yield effective results for improving mental health of a person. Yoga and meditation stimulates a sense of peace in your mind and body. A human mind is made of plenty of nerves which act like wires and connect with each-other and with the body to set a human being into function. Meditation and yoga helps to manage stress levels when practice on regular basis.

• Spend time with people: 

The most effective tool for preventing and managing stress is to talk, share and speak with people with whom you feel comfortable. Spend time with people around whom you feel relaxed and with whom you can share all or any of your problems. These people may be any of your family members, friends or  a work colleague. They may not necessarily have a solution to your problem but if you share it with another person your mind and heart feels lighten and this prevents causing more stress to you. Also, avoid people who stress you out as their presence will cause you more stress instead of managing it.

"You don't Gain anything from Stressing, Remember that"

How to Set and Achieve your Goals in Life

"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things."  Albert Einstein.

Around the globe it is observed that people like to do things or activities which make them happy. Doing your daily routine work i.e. personal and professional work is a part of your life. But who is the master of assigning you this work? It's no one else than you. 

So work on those things in your life which you want to, which gives you a sense of satisfaction and happiness. These things in your life are called as your 'Goals' in life. If you want to lead a satisfactory life, set your goals and work towards it.

Now let us first understand the basic concept of 'Goal Setting'.

Goal setting is the process wherein you have a specific target/thing  to achieve which is your 'goal' and Goal setting therefore would include all the steps towards achieving the target. Everyone has a goal in their life, be it a personal life goal like gaining self-confidence, improving body language or to improve oneself, a professional goal like to generate more income, acquire leadership qualities or to improve public relations, a business goal which includes setting up your own business as an entrepreneur. Further, Life goals includes a mixture of personal life goals, professional life goals along with primary goals like setting up a family, having a stable source of income and improving oneself to achieve all the desire goals ultimately.

In this article let us keep in mind our personal and professional life goals for a long term vision and understand the goal setting procedure by using a business goal as instance.

1.  Know your Goals: This is the foremost and the most important step for setting up your goals. You need to have a clear view as to what do you want in your life or what are you looking forward to in your life. Knowing your goals also includes that you should know yourself too. Further, a human has too many goals and aims in his life. Do not overburden yourself by having multiple goals at a same time. Rank your goals according to their importance in your life and have a main goal and create sub-goals. For instance you want to set-up a small scale trading business on your own, this is your main professional life goal. You further desire to have a good property to start your business center, you want to appoint supporting staffs, you want to have amazing interiors for your center and want to undertake other luxurious activities. Can you fulfill all these goals with your business capital alone? The probable answer to this is No. So remember to have a main goal and to not have multiple goals at the same time to mess up your work, therefore create sub-goals.  
2. Understand your Goals:  Goals are also classified as long term and short term goals. Before deciding on to your goal, remember to keep in mind its effect in short and long run in your life. For instance when you decide to set-up a small scale trading business keep in mind that its a long term process, you can't expect returns within a short span of time. Every business has a breathing period and then it flourishes to give you an average return to your invested capital. Further, if this small scale trading business is for trading seasonal things or festive stuffs it is going to have a short term effect and after a point of time it will discontinue yielding returns to you. 
3. Research on your desire Goal: Researching about your desire goal is an essential step to set up a goal. Researching broadens your horizon for a particular goal and you tend to have a better vision for it. For instance if you decide to set-up a small scale trading business then researching on the products which are trending in market for buying-selling is a great idea and accordingly then deciding your business product.
4. List down the pros and cons of your Goal: Understanding and accepting the pros and cons of your desire goal is very important for setting up your goal successfully. Pros and cons of your goal means the positive and negative impact of your goal in your life. Remember, all your personal life goals will definitely have a positive impact on your life therefore never stop improving yourself. 
5. Set time limit to achieve your Goal: Remember a goal without a timeline is just a dream. Therefore always make it a point to start working on your dreams by setting up your goals and further have time limit set to achieve those goals. 
6. Work towards your Goal: Setting up your goals is a continuous process wherein you need to work consistently towards it without any breaks. Remember nothing in life comes easy and therefore you need to put all your efforts and work to set up and achieve your goals. 

After you have succeeded in setting up your goals, it's time for the final step to Achieve It.

1. Work consistently towards your Goal: There is no stop towards working for your goals. You start working for setting up your goals and you have to continue working consistently to achieve it and retain it to lead a successful life.
2. Stay motivated to achieve your Goal: Constant self- motivation is a crucial point that you need to remember for achieving and retaining your goals. Encourage yourself every time and believe in your potentials to achieve your desire goal.
3. Be determined for your Goal: Sticking by your goal is equally as important as motivating yourself for achieving the desire goal. Ups and downs are part of every journey, even the ladder has ups and down steps, so remember if you go through a down phase while achieving your goals do not give up. Stay determined for it.  

SET YOUR GOALS HIGH AND DON'T STOP TILL YOU GET THERE. 

Effective ways to Lead a Positive Life

None of these ways will cost you anything but will definitely give you lot of happiness and peace in your Life. Try it out.

• Believe in God:

Do you know your body is only a clay structure without your soul in it? The clay structure has no life in it without the soul. And who is the maker and guardian of this clay structure and soul within it? It's the Almighty God.
Remember your belief in god is the foremost step to lead a happy and positive life. How can you not believe in the existence of god when you are existing only because of him in this world. God does exist in numerous forms around you, to take care of you and to protect you. So remember god in all your good and bad times. Thank god for the good times and ask him for mercy and help in the bad times. Do cultivate a habit to spare few minutes from your daily schedule to spend it with god. This time can be for doing anything right from reading your religious books or simply having a conversation with god. Once you make this a habit you will sense a feeling of inner peace. In this fast growing and busy world finding inner peace is a blessing and that leads to your real happiness.

• Believe in Yourself:

Have you ever heard someone saying, "I am a bad human and I am still happy in my life' or has anyone ever told you that "I don't believe in my potentials but I am happy in life?" 
No wise human has ever quoted these lines. Believing in yourself is the next immediate step to lead a happy life after you start believing in god. You need to have your self-confidence tied with you in all the rough and tough times in your life. Don't give up on yourself only because you think life is hitting you hard, make yourself so strong like a stone that you hit back to all those problems which are giving you pain and sufferings. Remember at the end it's all about your self-confidence, self-esteem and believe in your own self. 

• Spend Quality Time with Yourself & Be Optimistic: 

Spending quality time with yourself is an important act and you should make it a habit of doing things which makes you happy. This time should be a quality time which means you should feel relief from the worldly stress and other issues in your life. It's subjective as to what makes a person happy and what does quality time means to an individual. For those who think that they can't find answers as to what makes them happy and what does their quality time means, I can suggest you to just sit with yourself for sometime and think about all the positive things in your life. Thank god for it. Talk about your blessings with yourself rather than complaining about your burdens. This little time will lead you a step closer to your inner peace and happiness. Later, try knowing yourself more to find out the acts which makes you happy so that you start spending quality time with yourself. Remember this quality time has to get you only positive outcomes and therefore discard all the negativity when you sit to spend time with yourself.

• Don't be Afraid of Change: 

Life isn't constant. Understand that ups and downs are part of every individual's life. So don't fear to do things only because you are afraid of change. Not every storm comes to destroy things, at times that storm comes to clear your path. The change that you are fearing may be good for you someday, just let life flow and don't hold back only because you think you can't take up changes in your life in a positive manner. God has a plan for you, trust it, live it and enjoy it. 

• Don't Overthink: 

Your mind is the most powerful weapon of your body. If you choose to overthink then your mind is going to kill all your happiness. Overthinking has never resulted in any positive outcome. Understand, the quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life. Try every possible thing to free yourself from the act of overthinking and this will in return secure the happiness of your life and lead to positive results.

• Don't Compare Your Life with Others & Treat People with Dignity: 

Every individual is different and everyone has a story that is not read aloud. Therefore never compare your life with others. Work for your own self and not for competing with others. Live for your own happiness and do not carry ill- feelings for others in your heart. Forgive people for their wrong-doings because god likes the person who forgives the other.Don't hold on to grudges and keep a feeling of vendetta in you, keep your heart clean from all the negativity so that you are able to live happily.  Further, opinions and criticism are a part of the life journey, so don't get influence with the positive opinions and negative criticism, do what you feel is right for your own self. These little things will cover you with positive vibes from all the corners of your life. 
LASTLY,

Don't forget to remind yourself everyday, "I AM THE CREATOR OF MY OWN HAPPY LIFE" 

Don't Change Yourself, Improve Yourself.

Before taking a step to Change or Improve yourself, you need to know yourself first. So how do you know yourself? 

Knowing basic things like your likes, dislikes, kind of nature is not sufficient to know yourself better.You need to know every minute detail about yourself, because even a smallest thing counts in this big world. Before deciding on to change yourself, ask yourself a small question, 'Are you that bad that the worldly opinion is influencing you to change yourself or is it that you who has decided to change?' 

If it's the case that you are changing because of others, it's time to realize that you don't love yourself enough and you are so weak as a person that you easily get influenced. Start to love yourself before doing anything else in your life. You can get a few tips for Self Love on my post: https://lifeskillenhancement.blogspot.com/2019/07/self-love.html?m=1

Next, if you have yourself decided to change, then let me modify a small word for you here. You aren't CHANGING yourself, you are IMPROVING yourself. 

Remember even one word in your mind can affect your thoughts and acts. So when you think you are improving yourself it gives you a sense of positivity. On the other hand when you think you are changing yourself it has a negative sound from the inner you who is questioning you, 'Am I so bad that I need to change to fit in this world?' 

Remember never shush your inner voice, it's who you really are.

So every time you decide to improve or work on something keep telling yourself, 'I am doing this for my own self'

Here are some common situations where you can relate yourself and Improve, and not Change.

1. The act of improving oneself arises in a situation where you think you are being treated as an outsider among other people. And what makes you think that? Only because you think people are different than you, the surrounding and the atmosphere is such that you are not able to be your own self. Such places may include educational institutions or work place. Understand it's okay if people are different there, it's fine if the atmosphere is different. These little facts do not mean that you are lacking something in you and therefore you have to change yourself. Rather than changing, decide to improve yourself, make yourself open to accept and be comfortable with the fact that every individual is different. You don't have to change to set in an environment which you don't like, instead improve yourself and learn to adjust to fit in that environment because life is all about adjustments in the required circumstances.
2. The act of improving oneself arises when you are losing your own self because you have started disliking yourself. Only because you think others are having a good life and you aren't doing well in your life, therefore you need to change and be like them. No, you don't have to change, you only need improve yourself by having self confidence and love for yourself. Don't compare your life with others, everyone has their own story which is not read aloud.
3. The act of improving oneself arises when you have unintentionally and unknowingly indulged in the habit of overthinking. Overthinking is one of the cause of your unhappiness. If it's in your nature to overthink, then ask yourself a question here: 'Did overthinking ever gave you any solution?' With all probability the answer here is a No. So improve yourself and avoid to overthink by having a wise and a practical approach towards the issue.
4. The act of improving oneself arises when you are stuck in daily fights between your mind and heart, which is known as internal conflict. The mind and heart are part of your own body don't indulge in fights between them, rather decide on to chose a wise thought either from your heart or mind depending on the circumstances of the issue. You can read about handling internal conflicts in my post here: https://lifeskillenhancement.blogspot.com/2019/06/handling-internal-conflicts.html?m=1

Remember to improve yourself, not to change.

Good Luck! 

Self-Communication

Self-Communication is an essential tool for enhancing your personality and to lead a happy and a satisfactory life.

Now let us first understand the concept of self-communication.Talking to your own self and having a verbal interaction with yourself is known as self-communication.
Self-Communication plays a vital role in your life. You know yourself better than anyone else around you. Remember you are your own tutor, guider, counselor and a friend.You are the only one person with whom you can communicate 24 hours in a day.

Interpersonal conversations are really important to have an emotional stability within you. Cultivate a habit to talk with your own self, it's not wrong to do so. In-fact, self-communication is probably the best favor you can do for your own self.

Self-communication helps to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem. If you do not have interpersonal conversations with your own mind and heart, you are tend to feel that your mood is being affected easily.Disturbed mood swings can be one of the biggest reason for your unhappy life. So act wisely and  treat your inner self as your best friend, so that you can share each and everything with yourself every moment.

Self-communication also plays a vital role for your mental health. Constantly overthinking about a certain issue and not able to communicate about it with any close person can lead to many mental health issues. Then, why do you look out or wait for someone around you to speak about your problems, you are your best consoler, therefore speak with your own self and see the results.

Here are some effective ways to start with Self-Communication:

1. Schedule your day by keeping in mind to spare sometime with your own self either in the morning hours when you wake up or at night when your day has come to an end. Remember this time should be a quality time, which means it should exclude acts of thinking negatively and overthinking. Speak with yourself everything that happened on that particular day. Be optimistic and discuss your issues, don't get emotional too early. Act brave and remind yourself that you are a strong person and you can tackle with every situation.
2. Meditation also helps you boost up with your self-communication skills. Meditation makes you spend some few minutes with the inner you. Soon after meditating, do have small conversation with yourself. 
3. Don't judge yourself negatively every time after you commit a mistake. It's okay to commit mistakes, you are a human at the end. Talk with yourself and realize where did you go wrong for that mistake to happen. Promise yourself to not repeat those acts again.
4. Don't forget to love yourself. A human always tends to share and talk about life with a person whom he/she loves. You need to learn to love yourself first,to start with self communication.

You can also read about my 'Self Love' post here: https://lifeskillenhancement.blogspot.com/2019/07/self-love.html?m=1

Self Love

Your relationship with yourself sets tone for every other relationship you have.

Self Love is one of the most important feeling that you need to have in your heart. You are going to spend your entire life with yourself, you think you can stay happily with someone who doesn't loves you?

So understand loving yourself is an essential element to have a happy life.

So how do you start loving yourself? 

Make sure you start working on these tips from now onward:

1. Treat yourself like someone you love.
2. Be kind to yourself.
3. Be gentle with your thoughts. Remember how you will think about yourself, that's how you will act with yourself.
4. Appreciate every little effort that you make for leading a happy life.
5. Stay calm during a stormy phase of your life, pamper and console yourself at that moment because it's just a bad phase not a bad life.
6. Spend some quality time with yourself and do activities that makes you happy.
7. Never curse yourself for the mistakes committed by you unknowingly. Understand it's okay to make mistakes, you are a human at the end. Learn from those mistakes and come out better.
8. Making peace with yourself will help you love yourself more. Deal with your internal conflicts gently.
9. Keep patience with yourself, everything will happen at the right time. Don't rush to achieve your goals. Remember you are a human, not a robot.
10. Distance yourself from the people who make you feel like you are hard to love.
11. Be positive with your thoughts, imbibing negative vibes within you will refrain you from loving yourself.
12. Never compare  yourself with others, work on improving yourself everyday. Be your own competitor, because comparison will loosen your self confidence and ultimately make you dislike your own self.

                    Remember,'You owe yourself the love that you so freely give it to other people'

Enhance your Personality

"Do you know that your personality plays a major role in your life stories"
"Do you know your good personality can be like cherry on the cake to achieve your desire goals."

Let's understand first what does a Personality comprises of. A personality is a set of your nature and character. For eg. you may be sweet by nature and your character will be a humble one. You may have a short tempered nature and your character will be an arrogant one. But you can't change your nature, only in rare circumstances a human succeeds in changing his/her nature. But you do hold the power to work on your character.

In life right from your childhood till the last phase of age you are going to meet many people. Those people includes your family members, relatives, neighbors, friends, educational tutors, employers, co-workers or even strangers and your behavior with them does plays a significant role to define your character.A person with an arrogant character will not be liked by many people, but a humble human will always be treated with affection.

So now it's time to sit back and work towards improving your character because it's never too late to work on your own self.

To Enhance your Personality stick by these points:

•  Be optimistic about things around you.
• Think before you speak, use wise words in your communications.
• Don't strive to be a perfect human, strive to be a better person each day.
• Learn to control your anger, don't be too harsh with yourself too.
• Carry good manners along with you everywhere.
• Be confident.
• Be your own self always, never misguide people by showing them your multiple characters, be real.
• Do not back bite about the people you dislike, just let go. Don't hold on to grudges from your enemies.
• Be humble in your approach towards others.
• Keep appreciating yourself, never underestimate your potentials.
• Learn to accept that every individual is different and therefore everyone has their different opinions. Don't get indulge into arguments when points of differences are discussed. 

"It's never too late to start improving yourself, what are you waiting for?"

Life

"I am tired of life"

"Life is terrible"

"I want to give up on Life"

"Do you know your life is a god's gift and you shouldn't be cursing it for any big or small issue in your life"

"A human body is made of clay and mud, it is god who has given soul in this body structure. Who are you to curse or end your life?"

Life is like a journey and when you feel life is getting difficult to handle, remember that difficult roads often leads to beautiful destinations. The struggle which you are facing today is developing you to be stronger for tomorrow. So learn and gather courage from the difficult times in life rather than complaining about it. 

Life may seem to be low and dull at times, it may seem to you like setting of sun, at that moment remember to tell yourself that you won't be able to see the stars without darkness so let the sun set. Keep patience with yourself and have faith because the sun is going to rise up high again. 

Pray to god daily, remember he has written your destiny already and he knows how strong you are and he will never make you face difficulties beyond your capacity.

Remember nothing in life comes easy, learn to keep patience with yourself. Rome was not build in a day, set your goals and strive harder each day to achieve it, don't give up only because it is taking time. Patience is the real key to success.

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Here are some important life lessons for you from this post✅

• It's good to fail, because it makes you more stronger.
• It doesn't matter what other people think, it's your life at the end.
• Hard work always pays off, so never keep up.
• More money doesn't make you happier, strive for peaceful earning.
• Communication is key for a successful relationship.
• Keep patience with yourself and faith with God.
• You need to be flexible, Life is a journey and ups and down are part of it.
• Stay away from toxic people, they give out only negative vibes.
• Giving will make you happier. 

Wishing all readers a Happy and Healthy Life😊

Your Life Blogger,

Naureen C. 

Believe in Yourself

"Have you heard of the the saying Believe in Your Own Magic?"

"Do you know You are worthy of many good things in your life, You are capable to reach the sky, You are talented to set your aims and achieve your goals"

But you are only one step away to set these things into motion and for that you need to start believing in Your Own Magic. 

• Remember everything in life starts from your Self Confidence, so till the time you don't appreciate yourself and be confident about a certain thing you won't be able to start stepping up the ladder of success.
• Remember you are in competition with your own self and not with anyone else in this world. Therefore keep improving yourself every moment to win the competition. Don't compare yourself to others, understand that every individual is different. 
• Never underestimate yourself. Learn from your mistakes, get up after you fall but never criticize yourself for those mistakes. 
• Stay strong. Chase your dreams and keep Believing in Yourself.

Remember never to rush things, keep trying and trust the timings of your life. God has said: 'you work hard and leave the rest to me.'  So believe in yourself and keep working hard and if you don't see the desire outcomes, don't get dishearten, have patience. Keep appreciating yourself and encourage yourself to not give up.
Someday sooner or later you will see the outcome of all your patience, hard work, encouragement and confidence, because nothing worth having comes easy and you had a magic within you to achieve it.

Handling Internal Conflicts

"Mind says one thing, heart says another"

"There are too many thoughts in my mind about one single problem"

"Just can't decide between heart and mind" 

"Relax, its not a major conflict. It's your own life, your own thoughts and still you are choosing to create a conflict with your own self." 

It's true that at times, mind says one thing and heart says another.Your mind tries to influence you with your surrounding and your heart tries to influence you with your emotions.Understand that neither of them are wrong in doing so, it's a part of their duty to help you find solutions to your problems.

For handling Internal Conflicts all what you need to do is to:

1. Calm yourself down, give some peace and relaxation to your mind and heart. 
2. Narrow down the solutions given by both of them.
3. Always keep in mind that your problem and its related situations and circumstances should be the one to choose the thoughts from your mind and heart to finally have a solution. 
4. Decide the solution wisely. Because at times your heart's decision can be correct. So do what your heart says, you don't have to please anyone in this world. Other times your mind's decision can be correct  because you can't live your life only with emotions. Therefore keeping the situation and circumstances related to your problem in your mind is very essential for deciding a solution.
5. Practicality also plays a major role while handling internal conflicts between mind and heart.

Major tips to Handle the Internal Conflict:

• If you are going through phase of such internal conflicts, remember both your mind and heart at the end belong to you, so just pick a wiser thought.
• Handling such internal conflicts needs you to act wiser, to be patient and gentle with your own self.
• Don't make your internal conflict a life issue, it's not a fight, it's just a phase in life where your mind and heart are having different thoughts. Therefore treat the conflict as a phase of your life and let it pass.
• Simply choose a wiser thought  to your problem.

Self Management🤘🏻

"I can't control my temper"

"I am too sensitive as a person"

"I can't bear anyone being rude with me, I feel bad"

"My mood gets affected easily if someone acts bad with me"

"Why? don't you have control over your own self? Isn't it your responsibility to pamper yourself every moment?"🙂

Don't you love yourself enough to learn how to let go things for your own happiness and peace?

For getting over all the above narrated mind conflicts and issues, you only need to learn to manage your own self: what we termed it in the post tittle as Self Management.✌🏼

The first and the most crucial step here is to keep Loving your own self. Love yourself enough to not let people hurt you with their behaviours.✅

Why are you even expecting them to be good with you? 

Only because the other person is your partner, family member or a friend? 

Understand, it's not their personal responsibility to keep you happy, it's Your Primary Duty to keep Yourself Happy.😇

Following are a few tips which you should follow to fulfill your primary duty:✅

• Learn to let go things instead of tolerating them
• Learn to monitor your emotions instead of showing them to others 
• Learn to control your anger instead of bursting it out on others
• Learn to manage your own self instead of expecting others to take care of you
• If you are a arrogant person, learn to make peace with your own self first
• If you are a sensitive person, learn to respect your emotion, being sensitive isn't a bad thing
• If you are a soft- hearted person, learn to accept that not everyone is as soft hearted as you
• If you are too good to fit in the circle where you think people are bad, make your own circle because there are similar people like you out there

Remember you are the master of Your Own Life and therefore don't let anyone else have control over your mood and emotions.🙌🏻

Managing yourself is not a task, all what you need is to love yourself first and the rest follows automatically.🖖🏻

Self Help✌🏼

"Waiting for a person to ask you about your life"

"Waiting to meet a person to talk about all your problems"

"And you think everyone else except you is having a good life?"🙄

The one sole and obvious answer to this is NO, everyone in the world has a set of their own problems, its connected emotions, mind conflicts and struggles.

Asking them to console you and give you their time in your rough phase of life adds up to their existing problems.🙂

So why don't you help your own self?

Remember: 'Self Help is the Best Help.✌🏼

Now let's talk about the common custom of sharing your problems with your close pals and family members, and it's said that sharing your problems with others helps to lighten your heart,

Correct, it does help. But does it solves your problems completely? and think further, doesn't this adds up to their own stress and worries?

So why can't  you help your own self?

Helping your own self isn't really a big task. Start following these little tips now:

• Stop thinking that you are weak, because the biggest fact is that you have come a long way in your life already.✅
• Gather courage to face the issues and not to run away from them.✅
• Keep patience, good things take time to happen.✅
• Don't forget to connect yourself with god every moment, because he is up right there to take away all your sufferings and struggling in just one blink of your eyes.  Keep praying and have faith.🤲🏻💯

"Doesn't it feels easy to help yourself now?"

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It's just a Phase of Life.

"I can't take this anymore"

 "Life is tough"

"Adulthood is tough"

"Too many negative thoughts about life?🤔

Did you tried telling yourself that, 'the current stage of your life is just a phase and it shall pass soon."🙌🏻

If you haven't done it yet, do it at this very moment🆗.

Now see the change in your approach towards this tough life and your current adulthood phase.✅

Remember: Life is always going to give you back in the manner you treat it.

You take it as Burden, it will keep giving you more Irritating Vibes.🤨

You treat it as Blessing,  it will keep giving you Good Vibes.😇

You treat it with Negativity, it will keep giving you Negative Vibes only😣.

"So why don't you treat Life with Positivity?" So that you don't have to think about life as a burden and adulthood as tough"

It's just a Phase of Life. Relax, it will pass soon✌🏼. 

For now make sure you store these tips in your mind and heart✅

•  Appreciate yourself every moment
•  Be Optimistic
• Learn from the problems
• Save the solutions
• Pray and get closer to God 
• Have patience 
• Have faith in God, because remember 'God will test you not beyond your bearing capacity.' 

LIFE IS A BLESSING💯 TREAT IT AS ONE.❗️

Be your Own Counsellor✨

“I think my best friend knows me better”

“No one understands me better than my sister”

“Are you sure about these things? Do they really know you better than you know your own self?”

Think.....💬

“Not really” 

Right ?

Because the reality is slightly different from your thoughts. It’s not that the world knows you better, it’s only you who has made others to know you in a certain manner and that’s how they know you✔️.

Every time when you are feeling low, helpless and lost in your problems, remember one thing ‘Time heals’. So relax, give yourself sometime and hold on to patience and faith because god never tests a human beyond his bearing capacity.💯

So as a counsellor tell yourself to hold on to patience and faith firmly in all the rough and tough times.

Next, think about solutions and communicate with your own self  rather than crying over your problems. Are your tears going to heal you? The answer is No...,so wipe your tears, be optimistic be brave and find a solution. 

 Have a counselling session with your own self, choose your favourite place, grab your favourite food, smile a little, show up some courage and with a strong heart and cool mind think about all the possible solutions to your problem.

Because it’s said ‘Every problem has a solution’.✅

Now don’t you feel that you know yourself better than others and that’s why you can be your own counsellor.

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Failure: Your Tutor

“Do you fear failures?”

“You certainly do”

It’s okay to fear failures but it’s not okay to lose yourself in those failures. 

So for now with a positive mind and calm spirit get  ready to walk into these 3 simple steps:✅

1. Recollect: Do you remember how afraid you were of your primary school teacher, how quietly you sat on the bench when she arrived and how religiously everyday you completed your homework.You still had to go to the school everyday.Remembered those days ? Don’t lie to yourself that you weren’t afraid of your teachers in childhood. 
2. Understand: Now you are an adult, is your teacher around you? monitoring you? No she isn’t there any longer and your fear already started fading since long and now it has disappeared completely. Similarly make your failures your teacher and that fear will also start fading sooner. 
3. Implement: Now that you have understood fears fade by passing day, why do you want to fear your failures and hold yourself back. Don’t fear failures and from now do everything which you always wanted to. If you fail in it, make failure your teacher and keep monitoring yourself and see the positive outcomes.

Success: Isn't Permanent

" I want to conquer the World," "I want to earn limitless," I want to be in the list of most successful people in this world" .... and then what⁉️

Is a human still satisfied with it? Probable answer is still 'No' as its rightly said 'Human nature is never satisfied.'

To Achieve your Real Success, Aim to conquer your mind so that it doesn't distracts you from achieving your goals.Stick to your goals because you are capable to fulfill it, not because I am saying it but because it’s  you who has decided the goal and don't forget you know your potentials better than anyone else.☑️

To Achieve your Real Success, Aim to earn a name in this world so that people treat you with dignity,☑️

 And lastly ,

To call yourself as 'Most successful person' be satisfied with your inner peace and that is your Real Success.💯

The worldly success is therefore not permanent and having Inner Peace is the real success.

"So what would you opt for?"

"Think wisely"

I may help you with a short tip here: Work on yourself gently, don't complicate your thoughts, set one ultimate goal, stop comparing yourself to others and most importantly here is set limits to your aims till the time you reach a level you did not expected from your ownself .🖖🏻

✨Identify the Real You✨

“How well do you know yourself ?”

“Umm...I think I know my strengths, my weakness and ofcourse my aims in life”🙌🏻

“That’s it ?” 🙄

“Yeah..what else is needed for me to know myself better”🙄

This sole thought that I know myself enough is the sole reason because of which you are not achieving your goals, not able to catch hold on your aims and this is the reason you think life is tough.🙂

The one requirement for every human to be happy in this world is for him to Indentify himself.💯

And how do you do it ?🤷🏼‍♂️🤷🏼‍♀️

So it’s gonna be simple for now just take a deep breathe, find a good corner in your room and close your eyes for next few seconds.🕑🆗

The air around seems positive now. Your eyes, mind and heart are open and all set to grapse the next words💫 

Firstly,

The biggest favour you will do on your ownself is to not compare yourself with others, and that’s how you clear the first step of identifying yourself- i.e Making and maintaining your individuality✅

next is..,

Character:have a clear vision and don’t let your mind play double roles about your character, stick to the character you think fits best in this world and that makes you identify the kind of nature you possess.✅

Don’t let your strength become your pride and don’t let your weakness destroy you completely, find a mid way between these two attributes of yours and once you figure it out you have reached your destination where you control yourself because you know yourself better than before now.‼️😎