Handling Internal Conflicts

"Mind says one thing, heart says another"

"There are too many thoughts in my mind about one single problem"

"Just can't decide between heart and mind" 

"Relax, its not a major conflict. It's your own life, your own thoughts and still you are choosing to create a conflict with your own self." 

It's true that at times, mind says one thing and heart says another.Your mind tries to influence you with your surrounding and your heart tries to influence you with your emotions.Understand that neither of them are wrong in doing so, it's a part of their duty to help you find solutions to your problems.

For handling Internal Conflicts all what you need to do is to:

1. Calm yourself down, give some peace and relaxation to your mind and heart. 
2. Narrow down the solutions given by both of them.
3. Always keep in mind that your problem and its related situations and circumstances should be the one to choose the thoughts from your mind and heart to finally have a solution. 
4. Decide the solution wisely. Because at times your heart's decision can be correct. So do what your heart says, you don't have to please anyone in this world. Other times your mind's decision can be correct  because you can't live your life only with emotions. Therefore keeping the situation and circumstances related to your problem in your mind is very essential for deciding a solution.
5. Practicality also plays a major role while handling internal conflicts between mind and heart.

Major tips to Handle the Internal Conflict:

• If you are going through phase of such internal conflicts, remember both your mind and heart at the end belong to you, so just pick a wiser thought.
• Handling such internal conflicts needs you to act wiser, to be patient and gentle with your own self.
• Don't make your internal conflict a life issue, it's not a fight, it's just a phase in life where your mind and heart are having different thoughts. Therefore treat the conflict as a phase of your life and let it pass.
• Simply choose a wiser thought  to your problem.

Self Management🤘🏻

"I can't control my temper"

"I am too sensitive as a person"

"I can't bear anyone being rude with me, I feel bad"

"My mood gets affected easily if someone acts bad with me"

"Why? don't you have control over your own self? Isn't it your responsibility to pamper yourself every moment?"🙂

Don't you love yourself enough to learn how to let go things for your own happiness and peace?

For getting over all the above narrated mind conflicts and issues, you only need to learn to manage your own self: what we termed it in the post tittle as Self Management.✌🏼

The first and the most crucial step here is to keep Loving your own self. Love yourself enough to not let people hurt you with their behaviours.✅

Why are you even expecting them to be good with you? 

Only because the other person is your partner, family member or a friend? 

Understand, it's not their personal responsibility to keep you happy, it's Your Primary Duty to keep Yourself Happy.😇

Following are a few tips which you should follow to fulfill your primary duty:✅

• Learn to let go things instead of tolerating them
• Learn to monitor your emotions instead of showing them to others 
• Learn to control your anger instead of bursting it out on others
• Learn to manage your own self instead of expecting others to take care of you
• If you are a arrogant person, learn to make peace with your own self first
• If you are a sensitive person, learn to respect your emotion, being sensitive isn't a bad thing
• If you are a soft- hearted person, learn to accept that not everyone is as soft hearted as you
• If you are too good to fit in the circle where you think people are bad, make your own circle because there are similar people like you out there

Remember you are the master of Your Own Life and therefore don't let anyone else have control over your mood and emotions.🙌🏻

Managing yourself is not a task, all what you need is to love yourself first and the rest follows automatically.🖖🏻

Self Help✌🏼

"Waiting for a person to ask you about your life"

"Waiting to meet a person to talk about all your problems"

"And you think everyone else except you is having a good life?"🙄

The one sole and obvious answer to this is NO, everyone in the world has a set of their own problems, its connected emotions, mind conflicts and struggles.

Asking them to console you and give you their time in your rough phase of life adds up to their existing problems.🙂

So why don't you help your own self?

Remember: 'Self Help is the Best Help.✌🏼

Now let's talk about the common custom of sharing your problems with your close pals and family members, and it's said that sharing your problems with others helps to lighten your heart,

Correct, it does help. But does it solves your problems completely? and think further, doesn't this adds up to their own stress and worries?

So why can't  you help your own self?

Helping your own self isn't really a big task. Start following these little tips now:

• Stop thinking that you are weak, because the biggest fact is that you have come a long way in your life already.✅
• Gather courage to face the issues and not to run away from them.✅
• Keep patience, good things take time to happen.✅
• Don't forget to connect yourself with god every moment, because he is up right there to take away all your sufferings and struggling in just one blink of your eyes.  Keep praying and have faith.🤲🏻💯

"Doesn't it feels easy to help yourself now?"

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It's just a Phase of Life.

"I can't take this anymore"

 "Life is tough"

"Adulthood is tough"

"Too many negative thoughts about life?🤔

Did you tried telling yourself that, 'the current stage of your life is just a phase and it shall pass soon."🙌🏻

If you haven't done it yet, do it at this very moment🆗.

Now see the change in your approach towards this tough life and your current adulthood phase.✅

Remember: Life is always going to give you back in the manner you treat it.

You take it as Burden, it will keep giving you more Irritating Vibes.🤨

You treat it as Blessing,  it will keep giving you Good Vibes.😇

You treat it with Negativity, it will keep giving you Negative Vibes only😣.

"So why don't you treat Life with Positivity?" So that you don't have to think about life as a burden and adulthood as tough"

It's just a Phase of Life. Relax, it will pass soon✌🏼. 

For now make sure you store these tips in your mind and heart✅

•  Appreciate yourself every moment
•  Be Optimistic
• Learn from the problems
• Save the solutions
• Pray and get closer to God 
• Have patience 
• Have faith in God, because remember 'God will test you not beyond your bearing capacity.' 

LIFE IS A BLESSING💯 TREAT IT AS ONE.❗️

Be your Own Counsellor✨

“I think my best friend knows me better”

“No one understands me better than my sister”

“Are you sure about these things? Do they really know you better than you know your own self?”

Think.....💬

“Not really” 

Right ?

Because the reality is slightly different from your thoughts. It’s not that the world knows you better, it’s only you who has made others to know you in a certain manner and that’s how they know you✔️.

Every time when you are feeling low, helpless and lost in your problems, remember one thing ‘Time heals’. So relax, give yourself sometime and hold on to patience and faith because god never tests a human beyond his bearing capacity.💯

So as a counsellor tell yourself to hold on to patience and faith firmly in all the rough and tough times.

Next, think about solutions and communicate with your own self  rather than crying over your problems. Are your tears going to heal you? The answer is No...,so wipe your tears, be optimistic be brave and find a solution. 

 Have a counselling session with your own self, choose your favourite place, grab your favourite food, smile a little, show up some courage and with a strong heart and cool mind think about all the possible solutions to your problem.

Because it’s said ‘Every problem has a solution’.✅

Now don’t you feel that you know yourself better than others and that’s why you can be your own counsellor.

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Failure: Your Tutor

“Do you fear failures?”

“You certainly do”

It’s okay to fear failures but it’s not okay to lose yourself in those failures. 

So for now with a positive mind and calm spirit get  ready to walk into these 3 simple steps:✅

1. Recollect: Do you remember how afraid you were of your primary school teacher, how quietly you sat on the bench when she arrived and how religiously everyday you completed your homework.You still had to go to the school everyday.Remembered those days ? Don’t lie to yourself that you weren’t afraid of your teachers in childhood. 
2. Understand: Now you are an adult, is your teacher around you? monitoring you? No she isn’t there any longer and your fear already started fading since long and now it has disappeared completely. Similarly make your failures your teacher and that fear will also start fading sooner. 
3. Implement: Now that you have understood fears fade by passing day, why do you want to fear your failures and hold yourself back. Don’t fear failures and from now do everything which you always wanted to. If you fail in it, make failure your teacher and keep monitoring yourself and see the positive outcomes.

Success: Isn't Permanent

" I want to conquer the World," "I want to earn limitless," I want to be in the list of most successful people in this world" .... and then what⁉️

Is a human still satisfied with it? Probable answer is still 'No' as its rightly said 'Human nature is never satisfied.'

To Achieve your Real Success, Aim to conquer your mind so that it doesn't distracts you from achieving your goals.Stick to your goals because you are capable to fulfill it, not because I am saying it but because it’s  you who has decided the goal and don't forget you know your potentials better than anyone else.☑️

To Achieve your Real Success, Aim to earn a name in this world so that people treat you with dignity,☑️

 And lastly ,

To call yourself as 'Most successful person' be satisfied with your inner peace and that is your Real Success.💯

The worldly success is therefore not permanent and having Inner Peace is the real success.

"So what would you opt for?"

"Think wisely"

I may help you with a short tip here: Work on yourself gently, don't complicate your thoughts, set one ultimate goal, stop comparing yourself to others and most importantly here is set limits to your aims till the time you reach a level you did not expected from your ownself .🖖🏻

✨Identify the Real You✨

“How well do you know yourself ?”

“Umm...I think I know my strengths, my weakness and ofcourse my aims in life”🙌🏻

“That’s it ?” 🙄

“Yeah..what else is needed for me to know myself better”🙄

This sole thought that I know myself enough is the sole reason because of which you are not achieving your goals, not able to catch hold on your aims and this is the reason you think life is tough.🙂

The one requirement for every human to be happy in this world is for him to Indentify himself.💯

And how do you do it ?🤷🏼‍♂️🤷🏼‍♀️

So it’s gonna be simple for now just take a deep breathe, find a good corner in your room and close your eyes for next few seconds.🕑🆗

The air around seems positive now. Your eyes, mind and heart are open and all set to grapse the next words💫 

Firstly,

The biggest favour you will do on your ownself is to not compare yourself with others, and that’s how you clear the first step of identifying yourself- i.e Making and maintaining your individuality✅

next is..,

Character:have a clear vision and don’t let your mind play double roles about your character, stick to the character you think fits best in this world and that makes you identify the kind of nature you possess.✅

Don’t let your strength become your pride and don’t let your weakness destroy you completely, find a mid way between these two attributes of yours and once you figure it out you have reached your destination where you control yourself because you know yourself better than before now.‼️😎