google.com, pub-5264095749887967, DIRECT, f08c47fec0942fa0 Improving Oneself: August 2019

Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Anger Management

"For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness"
 "Don’t you want to lead a happy life? Do you want to frustrate yourself every day by hampering your mental peace?"
These simple questions anonymously answer that you deserve a happy life and you need to discard emotions which hamper your peace.  

Anger is the most dangerous enemy to your happiness and learning to give-up on your anger for your happiness is the most important thing you should be doing for your own-self. Anger is a human emotion caused due to unforeseen circumstances, unjust acts or as a consequence of saddening situations in life.
Learn to Control your "ANGER" because it is just one letter away from "D"ANGER

Anger can be dangerous to your life and has the following effects:
  • Anger leads to deteriorating physical health which includes high BP, headache and anxiety
  • Anger hampers your mental well-being which includes frequent irritations, breakdowns and  not getting sound sleep
  • Anger results in spoiling your relationships with families and other people because of  your rudeness and temperament.
  • Anger also has a bad effect on your career as you tend to spoil your relationship with office colleagues and seniors because of your arrogant behavior.

Anger management plays a vital role in shaping your personality. Managing your anger does not mean that you need to control it all the time, understand controlling and managing are two different aspects. Anger as an emotion is going to come out regardless of your control over it, therefore you need to learn to manage your anger rather than controlling it.

Effective Tips to Manage your Anger:

  1.  The foremost thing you need to do is to figure out your nature with regards temper issues. You need to understand as to what are the things that add up to your temper.
  2. Anger within you arises due to different sources like it may be caused because of frustration, unforeseen circumstances, work pressure, emotional breakdown or when life does not goes as per your will. Once you have figured out the source of your anger, you need to sit and tell yourself one thing "Anger doesn't solve anything, it builds nothing but it can destroys everything.
  3. After knowing the source of your anger, next immediate thing that you need to do is to know what triggers you to react in such a manner. Ask yourself, "have you reach a level of frustration that you can't control it anymore? Is it an emotional breakdown? Is it your work pressure which makes you behave in this manner?" After getting your answers, relax and understand that anger is an emotion just like every other emotion and therefore don't let it overpower you, instead choose to not get triggered by it and take the issue in a humorous manner or by remaining silent  for that particular moment. Choosing to ignore it, meditating and spending time with positive people around has also proven to be effective tips to overcome the trigger of your anger.
  4.  Every management in your life is for you and you are the first person to handle it, be it 'time management' or 'anger management' you need to work on yourself first and other management follows thereon. Learn to stay calm in the stormy situation. "You think that is impossible?" Nothing is impossible if you are willing to do it and you need to change and keep on trying to calm yourself till you finally succeed.
  5. Even after multiple attempts to have control over yourself, over your emotions and anger you still fail in managing it and despite many steps to control and manage your anger if you fail, its advisable that  you need to enroll for anger management therapy at the earliest because remember "ANGER" is only a letter away from "D"ANGER.

Remember: IF ANOTHER CAN EASILY ANGER YOU, IT IS BECAUSE YOU ARE OFF BALANCE WITH YOURSELF AND THEREFORE IMPROVE YOURSELF TO MANAGE YOUR ANGER.

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Stress Management

Having stress in your life is like a disease of precarious consequence which needs a timely treatment, as it can even cost you your life. Stress as a disease is one of the dangerous disease that your body can handle. Therefore figuring out the minor and major symptoms of stress, finding out the reason/source of the stress, handling the stress effectively and coping up with stress are all very important doses for curing the disease of 'stress'. 


The meaning of stress in the most simplified manner includes 'Stress as a state of mental/emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse negative circumstances'. Tension, overthinking, negative thoughts and fears are all major sources of stress.

 Stress also plays a role of a foundation for many other diseases in your body. It can result in many health problems including mental health i.e depression, anxiety and personality disorder.  It can also cause disease like heart disease, high blood pressure and stroke.
Now that you have read and understood about the deadly consequences of stress, don't you think you should be more cautious for your health, mental well-being  and your life?
Stress is a disease, but it can be cured if managed effectively. Therefore to lead a healthy and long life you need to learn to manage stress which is termed as Stress Management.


Stress Management is all about having control over yourself which includes management over your thoughts, emotions, environment and also your daily habits of living.

Here are 5 simple ways to Manage and Prevent Stress: 

  • Be Optimistic:

Overthinking is the first step which leads to cause stress on a human mind. When do you tend to overthink? You tend to overthink when you are having negative thoughts about a particular thing/situation. So, learn to be optimistic i.e to be positive even in your worst circumstances because it's not stress that kills us, it our reaction to it'. Remember everything happens for a good reason. May be the worst situation god has put you in is going to make you stronger or may be this worst situation which you are into currently was arisen by god to teach you a life lesson. Holding on to positivity during a tough time is a hard thing to do but do you think its more tough than the consequences which you may have to suffer if stress starts entering your body as a disease? Think about it and cultivate yourself from this very moment to stay positive so that you can manage and prevent stress.
  • Make time for yourself: 
In the fast growing and busy world making time for your own self is extremely important or else you keep losing your peace in the worldly affairs. When your mind is constantly occupied with various things everyday, after a certain point these thoughts start causing you stress and you tend to hamper your mental well-being. Therefore, have a habit to make time for yourself everyday. Your mind and body needs relaxation after a level of work which it does for you. Understand, a leisure time is like a fuel to your mind and body and therefore spending sometime for yourself is not a waste of time and  it will work as a preventive measure for stress and ultimately help you to maintain your health positively. Spending time with yourself can include doing anything which relaxes you like reading a book, listening to music, playing sports or simply sitting in the corner of the room and having a good conversation with god. These activities may seem like a small act but in reality these tiny steps which you take for your own self helps you prevent and manage your stress to a great level.

  • Have a Balanced Schedule:
  • It is really important for a person to have a balanced schedule in his life. You need to understand the importance of having a balanced schedule in your life as all activities which you do with your mind and heart in totality has a effect on your life. Balance schedule means having a schedule wherein you include a leisure time for yourself, some social time with people along with your personal and professional time.You need to manage your day in a manner which will not disproportionate your personal-professional time and leisure-social time. Having a balanced schedules in life will prevent your mind to get stuck on one thing and as a result will also prevent causing stress to you. Having a balanced schedule also has a vital role in stress management as your mind gets distracted from certain things when you decide to spend some quality time with yourself  or have some social time.

    • Practice Meditation and Yoga:
    • Activities of practicing yoga, meditation and playing of sports have proved to yield effective results for improving mental health of a person. Yoga and meditation stimulates a sense of peace in your mind and body. A human mind is made of plenty of nerves which act like wires and connect with each-other and with the body to set a human being into function. Meditation and yoga helps to manage stress levels when practice on regular basis.
      • Spend time with people: 
      The most effective tool for preventing and managing stress is to talk, share and speak with people with whom you feel comfortable. Spend time with people around whom you feel relaxed and with whom you can share all or any of your problems. These people may be any of your family members, friends or  a work colleague. They may not necessarily have a solution to your problem but if you share it with another person your mind and heart feels lighten and this prevents causing more stress to you. Also, avoid people who stress you out as their presence will cause you more stress instead of managing it.

      "You don't Gain anything from Stressing, Remember that"